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WHAT IS CO-PARENT COUNSELING?

Co-Parent Counseling is based upon the premise that while the couple is over, divorced parents still need to interact with each other. Co-Parent Counseling for divorced parents is not aimed at healing wounds each parent suffered in the relationship or at reconciliation. The sole goal of Co-Parent Counseling is to build a cooperative co-parenting environment. I help parents to redirect the focus to their children and teach skills that ensure that the interest of the children comes first. In high conflict divorces I often see parents trying to “win” arguments. Through therapy, I help both parents focus instead on how their children can win. The following strategies can help divorced/separated parents develop a healthy co-parenting practice:

  • try to remember what makes the other parent good as a parent (which is very different than being good as a partner)
  • establish ground rules for communicating
  • commit to keeping communication in front of the children respectful (including body language) 
  • set boundaries ("it's none of your business")  
  • acknowledge that "winning" is not as important as being a good parent.

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CHILDREN EXPERIENCE DIVORCE DIFFERENTLY THAN THEIR PARENTS

 

Research shows that three factors help children of any age adjust after divorce:

  1. having a strong relationship with both parents
  2. good parenting
  3. minimal exposure to conflict

No real surprises here.

The challenge for parents is pulling it off in the midst of the financial, legal and emotional turmoil that often accompanies divorce. Children experience divorce in a very different way than their parents. Through counseling you can build skills that will enable you to support your children psychologically, socially and emotionally according to their stage of development.

The adjustment to parenting as a newly single parent can be isolating and challenging. My goal is to help you feel supported, prepared and confident.